LOVE AND MARRIAGE

  Relationships and by extension, marriages are not built on love. Because it takes more than just love to keep and sustain any form of relationship. The world is in a serious comatose of broken marriages everywhere, broken relationships too are not exempted. And one begins to beg to wonder – if they didn’t actually love each other when the going was going smooth. Truth is, we get attracted by love. We get carried away by the beauty, handsomeness, kindness, generosity, humor and all other endearing factors when we enter into most relationship. And as such, naturally, we tend to want to spend more time with our partners. Quality time spent together over a long period of time will develop into affections. The infatuation aspect of it too cannot be over-emphasized! In fact, this is the driving force in 99% of relationships. An immense sexual attraction between two opposite gender; the ability to meet and satisfy each other’s sexual demand has even led to the birth of most relationsh

Differentiating between love and lust in a relationship is one of the most challenging situations any partner will ever encounter. The two words start with letter "L" and can be tricky if not careful.   While there might not be proof to tell if what you're feeling is love or lust. Understanding these two words with a deeper thought will give you insightful ways to spot the difference. Follow the steps below to know the difference between love and lust.   ON LOVE ●        Undiluted attention between partners The first difference to notice between love and lust is attention and attraction. It isn't necessarily a physical attention or attraction. There's this non-sexual attraction you will feel towards your partner. You care for your partner even when you know their fault. You stay committed even when they're faraway. That's true love.   ●        Feeling secure around your partner One of the things to notice is the security and peace of

Everyone wants to experience a happily ever after type of marriage but they're not ready to work to achieve it.  An Adage says; Marriage is not a bed of roses. It's mixed with thorns. It's a known fact that the rate of divorce is alarming, due to uncooked advice young couples or newly married couples seek from inexperienced minds.  Regardless of the advice received, whether a marriage is healthy or unhealthy, there are some secret advice that contribute to overall happiness and success in a marriage.  Below are secret marriage advice for couples whether old or newly married couples. Have physical contact/affection Sharing physical contact in a marriage might seem simple and easy. But it goes beyond sexual contact. It's a nonsexual contact where you need to hug or just hold hands with your partner. It builds a sense of belonging in a marriage.  Be honest I know this is a common theme for every marriage. But It's a theme you shouldn't forget, because this is a bui

  Building trust in a relationship is like building a house on a rigid foundation. Trust is the first building block in every relationship. Lots of relationships are suffering because of lack of trust, but they find it is hard to rebuild. Most partners are either suffering from trust insecurities from past traumatic experiences or past relationships.   Before building trust again in your relationship or in your life, have it in mind that building trust needs lots of commitment, patience, tolerance and communication to rebuild it. Written below are   tips to help you overcome trust issues in your relationship.   ●        Increase your communication Clearly have a good and deep discussion with your partner, this will help you handle trust issues. Talk to your partner about how you feel about a certain situation or person. Let them feel connected when having a discussion with you. Let the communication flow between you and your partner. This will enhance your level of clarit

  Sometimes we think showing affection in a relationship is something that has to be done in a grand style. But, it's not necessary, simple kind gestures and support can go a long way in your partner's heart compared to grand gestures.   No matter how you want to be shown love in a relationship, exhibiting an act of affection to your partner goes a long way. Here are few ways to exhibit an act of affection to your partner in your relationship or marriage.   ●        Be attentive A partner with a calm and cool listening ear wins the heart of their lover. There's nothing as affectionate as having your partner listen to your rant, jokes and gusts with full attention. It might seem little to you but it means alot to your partner. Be attentive to your partner in all situations. Give them that listening ear.   ●        The act of giving (GIFT) Don't be a boring partner. Surprise your spouse with a small gift when they least expect. Don't wait till it&#

  We all know the saying that "no relationship is perfect", well that's true. But we all want that healthy, sweet, peaceful and relaxing relationship, where you and your partner settle all misunderstanding amicably. It's not like that in a toxic relationship. It's always draining and full of negativity. There are some cogent signs to look out for in a relationship to test its level of toxicity.   ·         Having a toxic communication Don't be surprised if you're always quarreling with your partner virtually or physically. When you noticed criticism, sarcasm and hostility in your communication with your partner, that's a sign of toxicity.   ·         Use of negative words This is one of the attributes of low self-esteem, which is also related to toxicity in a relationship. When your partner uses insultive or disdainful words at you. This is one of the signs to look out for in your relationship.   ·         Constant drainage When